This year I had a conflict with my mother -in -law. We came to visit her for a week. She is a very imperious person, everyone should obey her. The problem is that my 10-year-old daughter does not eat some products (salads with mayonnaise, sausage, fish). The mother -in -law was terribly enraged.
I treat this calmly, grow up – it will begin to eat. I am a mother -in -law and said. But she demanded for a forcibly feed the child, I refused. All this happened calmly, without scandals. But one day the mother -in -law could not stand it and rolled my tantrum with insults and dirt addressed to me. I later realized that she was preparing for this and was waiting for this moment when I can humiliate me.
I heard all this and saw my daughter and sobbed in the country. We left the house on the same day. I won’t go there anymore. But the daughter wants to go there and asks: “How I go without you?»I’m afraid to let her go with dad. By the way, he also does not like that his daughter does not eat everything, he supports his mother in this.
I do not see the love of this grandmother for my granddaughter. In the week that we were there, she never hugged the child and did not talk to her. Once even interrupted when the daughter turned to her. I am afraid that they will offend her there, that they will force me to eat food in the mouth with a scandal. The eldest granddaughter (her husband’s niece) no longer goes there because of the selfish and powerful nature of the grandmother.
How to be in such a situation?
Irina, of course, you yourself will decide where and with whom to let your minor daughter go. But you are not embarrassed that we are talking about the place where violence is committed over your child?
Feed the child by force is to directly invade his bodily and moral boundaries. Your daughter is already 10 years old, this is the beginning. If she accepts for a given that her body is not “its business”, but it can be “put into expense”, as others require, this belief may well switch to other spheres of https://www.impronte-digitali.it/2023/11/29/find-love-once-more-with-senior-catholic-singles/ life.
What do you think that your daughter from such trips can make positive? You do not want to see your mother -in -law and are ready to release the child alone or with the father, who will support the mother -in -law. That is, you, an adult, decided to save yourself, and let the child cope how he can?
You write that she wants to go there herself. Why? If this place is unpleasant for her and there is no contact with her grandmother. For which she is torn there? Try to find out. Perhaps you are able to give her this where you live. Or you will find the strength to go with your daughter. Or you will discuss what is happening with your husband, and he will revise his attitude to the behavior of his mother.
Geef een reactie