Even if you abstract from the moral side of the issue, the connection with the married man has many minuses. Holidays alone, constant lie, lack of full proximity. The worst thing is that a woman almost always feels a lonely and unworthy role of “main”. How to break a connection, which in most cases does not have a future?
There is hardly one who wants to become a mistress. Most wish families, children, common friends. But sometimes this nevertheless happens: starting with an innocent flirting with a married man, we can imperceptibly fall in love with him.
Such novels rarely end in favor of a mistress. Most likely, in the end you will get nothing but pain, regrets and a broken heart. The bad news is that to break off the connection with a married man is much more difficult than parting with an official partner.
Why? At least because of finance. A break with an official partner, as a rule, implies a division of property, even if you were not married: you bought things in an apartment together, and when parting everyone gets something. Leaving a married lover, you will most likely leave empty -handed.
In addition, married men often spend money on lovers, whether it is gifts or a “full package”: payment of an apartment, trips and everyday expenses. It is difficult to abandon such a lifestyle, especially if you are used to it, but you can’t secure it yourself yet.
Typically, relationships end for a certain reason: for example, you had a fight and realized what you want from the life of different
In a relationship with a married man, you almost have no chance to see his shortcomings. You do not meet so often and try to show yourself from the best side, do not have time to bore each other or spoil the mood of conversations about payments on a loan or a dishwasher that is not unloaded in time. Your communication is a continuous endorphin-adrenaline holiday, eternal honeymoon. This is very difficult to refuse.
In addition, you initially have to put up with the fact that the lover has sex with his wife. In a normal situation, this would be perceived as treason, and it is very likely that you would not endure it. And here the worst thing has already happened and is happening, he is unlikely to
do something so much that you decide to leave.
But there is good news: you can finish this relationship using special tactics. About how to facilitate the task, says psychotherapist Marnie Fourman.
1.Sweep the focus
An effective way is to fall in love with a free man. Most lovers keep loyalty to married partners. Think about it: he doesn’t keep you loyalty. Even if he claims that she and his wife are sleeping in different rooms, there were no sex for several years, and the last three children were the result of immaculate conception, artificial insemination or a plot of healers.
Do not bring your life to one man, open up new opportunities. Around full of interesting and free men. If someone interests you, to break with your lover will be the case of one call.
2. Increase your requests
You never asked for money and were content with gifts? Ask for money or more gifts. Most likely, this will quickly begin to annoy the man, and the relationship will crack, because he will show you not only the best sides, but also those that hid.
3. Spend more time together
Offend and make a complaint if he cannot meet you. Firstly, it will annoy him, because before you all suited you. Secondly, you will have a chance to see his true face that his wife observes every day. Very likely, you will not like it.
Do not dismiss the unpleasant features of his character – he is not tired, this is not stress and you have not “brought him”. He is such a person, and maybe he doesn’t suit you. If these discoveries lead to a quarrel, it is only on your hand. It will be easier to leave and start a new life.
4. Remove the mask of a good and understanding woman
Stop portraying the perfect life partner who is happy with everyone. Show your character. Of course, there is a chance that he likes you even more. But the likelihood that you remind him of his wife, from whom he escapes to you is much higher. He will begin to be annoyed, and you can finally think about whether you really are interested in him as a person, or everything is kept on another: on sex, lack of complaints and the ability to complain about the forever dissatisfied spouse.
5.Love yourself more than him
Why are you content with the crumbs of this person’s attention? You consider yourself an unworthy of good relationship? Remind yourself that you deserve love and attention no less than it. If he does not give you this for any reason, it is time to free up a place for another in life – the one who will fill her with happiness every day.
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